Family and a sense of belonging are vital to all of us, especially as we are growing up. In my teenage years, I revolted.

Most teenagers are revolting, at least for a time! This is no doubt a normal and passing phase in adolescence, as it was with me. But family is essential support.

Growing up "in care" must be a very lonely experience, especially if the situation is continually changing. Various classic stories such as Jane Eyre highlight this, just as Charles Dickens focussed on the plight of impoverished people in his time. In East Devon today there is a relative abundance of material things, but there is no guarantee of the love and security which are the key ingredients to a happy childhood leading to positivity in adulthood.

Adoption or fostering are ways to fill that void, replacing the darkness of solitude with the challenge and support of family life. To quote a real life story:

"I became aware that my younger sister and I were "adopted" when I was about seven years old. At the time I thought the word sounded special, without understanding at all what it really meant. By then I knew that my Mum and Dad loved me, and that I loved them, even on those days when I was naughty and got into trouble. The unconditional love of a Mum and Dad, that was what really mattered to me throughout my childhood, adolescence, and young adulthood.

This unconditional parental love gave me a sense of security through all the challenges, opportunities, anxieties and fears that school and then the wider world would bring into my life. Mum and Dad gave me a happy home and family to which I could retreat. A place where I could relax and be myself without feeling awkward or threatened in any way.

My home life also brought the joy of grandparents living nearby, who joined us for family Christmas celebrations, summer holidays, and days out. Sometimes it was great just to go and spend time with them. Many happy memories.

My adoption gave me wonderful love and care throughout my years growing up. My parents always looked after me. They also taught me to look out for others. I learned from my parents and grandparents how important it is to care for and be kind to people of all ages, including my younger sister! The need to treat others as I would wish to be treated was taught at Sunday School, but reinforced in our family home and relationships.

The example and nurturing my parents gave me would prepare me when it was time for me to care for them. My Mum died of cancer at the comparatively young age of 63 and a few years later my Dad was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. Dad would soon become as dependent on me, as I had once been on him and Mum.

Being adopted gives the opportunity to receive love and the opportunity to give love back. Sharing family love brings a real sense of belonging. It is one of the greatest blessings life can provide.""

This framework of family support, so essential for teenagers, can also be provided by foster parents who can also create lasting bonds. Too many kids are "in care" or on their own, needing family love and support, waiting for someone to reach them and become a trustworthy mentor